Spooning with MFH is always the best part of my day. Spooning is all about the cuddles. Think of spoons neatly arranged in a drawer. Their bowls are perfectly aligned, the hollow of each lying flush with the next – ah heaven! Spooning can lead to forking but that’s a whole different use of cutlery! (whoops – inappropriate Mother alert!!!)
Since MS forced its way into my life, I’ve discovered a whole new meaning for the word SPOON…
Some lucky so and so’s have boundless energy and stamina ( I remember when that was me!) but those of us who don’t, due to chronic illness, find it really hard to explain our energy levels to the uninitiated and seem to spend our time explaining that we’re not lazy, we’re just oh-so-darn tired. And that’s where the theory of spoons comes in.
What is the “spoon theory”?
It’s a quirky way of explaining how much energy or in our case – lack of it, we have on any given day.
You can’t measure energy levels scientifically but this unit of measurement – numbers of spoons you have – seems to hit the nail on the head.
TS Eliot’s quote “I have measured out my life with coffee spoons” could have been written for us – the MS “Spoonies”
The basic theory is that we count our day in spoons – tasks – 12 is the number bandied around but it’s up to you to set your spoon limit. Every activity we do costs us one or more of our daily allowance of aforementioned spoons and we have to use them wisely to get through the day: Here’s my take on it…
Getting up in the morning = 1 spoon
Having a bath = 1 spoon (getting in and out on a bad day – at least 3 spoons)
Walking the dog = 2 spoons (unscheduled squirrel chase – spoon meltdown!)
Visiting friends = 4 spoons (just a chat and a coffee use lots of spoons – meh!)
Work = 5 spoons (avoidance will save spoons)
Shopping = 5 spoons (however, online shopping = 1 spoon and is ultimately far more satisfying – boom!)
Exercise = 5 spoons (use your spoons wisely)
Climbing the stairs = 1-2 spoons (I live in a 3 storey house, so I’m all out of spoons by lunchtime!)
Cooking = 3 spoons (baking – I’m no Mary Berry so spoon reserves required)
Watch TV = 2 spoons (anything with George Clooney or Ryan Reynolds – gains you a spoon swoon and swooning is good for the soul and heart rate! (I’d happily polish their spoons!)
Reading – 1 spoon
Making phone calls = 3 spoons (anyone with the gift of the gab are exhausting)
Ironing = this uses more spoons than you have in your draw, so give this one a wide berth!!!
Attend social event = 5 or more spoons (but so worth stockpiling your spoons for these rare outings!)
Extracurricular activities = Way too many spoons, but so worth it!!!
You might hear someone say they’re running low on spoons. Don’t rush to John Lewis to replace them, they just need to rest and recuperate!.
And if we spoonies use up more energy than we actually have, and get overly exhausted as a result, it’s known as getting into “spoon deficit”. This is when you have to have a ” crash landing” – an unscheduled rest to get over non-standard events such as a day out or hospital trip.
It’s all about pacing yourself and choosing which tasks are worth “sacrificing a spoon” for. In my humble opinion – ditching the cleaning and spending the afternoon on the sofa with a good book means you’ve replenished your spoon stock and can go to the theatre or out for supper without having to use matchsticks on the eyelids!
Word of warning… if you exceed your daily allowance, be aware that you’ll be dipping into your spoons for the next day, but then that’s fewer spoons for tomorrow. Plan carefully or you’ll end up a gibbering wreck with not a spoon to call your own and forking is will be a thing of the past!!